Children Learn What They Live
Posted by Dr. Cason on Sunday, October 5th, 2008
Have you seen this yet? I’m constantly working on keeping a calm voice, a firm stance yet loving tone. It’s tough especially when multitasking and managing three kids that demand your attention. But it’s worth it to try.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte
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Barbara Swaffordon 05 Oct 2008 at 5:10 pm 1Hi Dr. Cason - I saw this years ago and it remains a favorite of mine. It holds so much truth.
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tiffon 05 Oct 2008 at 9:24 pm 2Also a fave here.
I have it on a card and keep it in my wallet. i bought it before I had kids.
Kathleenon 05 Oct 2008 at 10:03 pm 3Very wise words indeed. If we realized WE are what our children become, wouldn’t we all be so much wiser how we raise these little gifts God blesses us with.
I get sad when I see some parents give their pets more love and nurturing than their children. I used to tell my family and friends, “I do not have to raise my voice or hit my dog to train it, so why would I have to do this with my children - they are far more intelligent and eager to please me.”
Unconditional love - this is the true blessing from parents to their children. I was so blessed to have been given this by my precious grandparents who raised me. I was truly blessed.
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Cassaundraon 05 Oct 2008 at 11:08 pm 4This is on of my all time favorites, it’s very true…..and especially when it comes to my special needs son…….as he sees the world differently than most. And KINDNESS matters. Thanks Sheila, for sharing this with us to remind us the contrast our actions and words make in the lives of our children.
White Hot Magikon 05 Oct 2008 at 11:55 pm 5So true, so true. Also reminds me of how once I had kids I had to grow up so I can do the right things and quit all those bad attitudes.
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Dr. Casonon 06 Oct 2008 at 2:01 pm 6Barbara- I recently saw this a few days ago and it reminded me of when I first saw it. I just sat back and said- wow.
tiff- I love it too.
Kathleen- *Hugs* ” I get sad when I see some parents give their pets more love and nurturing than their children. I used to tell my family and friends, “I do not have to raise my voice or hit my dog to train it, so why would I have to do this with my children - they are far more intelligent and eager to please me.”
I know just what you mean!
Cassaundra- Thank you for your kindness and concern. I loved it too!
White Hot- I still am trying.
Chrison 06 Oct 2008 at 2:38 pm 7So true. It’s easier to hear/see our spouse’s bad habits in our children. So it’s why my wife and I help each other by (gently!) pointing out how we can improve. It’s also great to observe the good they come up with. One day, I was sick in bed, informed my younger one when he came to my bedside and he asked: “Do you need some Ginger Ale?”
Anyway, I really enjoyed this post and I Stumbled it.
Nora Beeon 06 Oct 2008 at 4:11 pm 8Yes, it’s no only worth it to try, it may just be our best hope for this world.
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kcinnovaon 08 Oct 2008 at 6:56 am 9My mother had this poem hanging in her bedroom when I was growing up. Sadly, she modeled a lot of yelling. I’m still trying to rid myself of this handy-dandy item in my parenting “tool box.”
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